Ages 4-18 · New Castle County, DE county

Intellectual Disability Parent Mastermind — New Castle County, DE

The hardest part of raising a neurodivergent child in New Castle County, DE is rarely the child. It is being the only person in the room who knows what your child needs, in a meeting where everyone else is paid to be there. New Castle County is one of 3 counties in Delaware.

Families here plan on a longer horizon than most: school, then work, then housing, then a life that outlasts the parents. Doing that alone is heavier than it needs to be.

A monthly meeting in New Castle County

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School placement and what inclusion looks like now
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Waiver waitlists and where each family sits
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Life skills that are being taught, and by whom
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The long horizon — work, housing, guardianship alternatives
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One system that needs pushing this month

What families in New Castle County, DE ask first

Is inclusion realistic for my child?

Families here have a range of experience and will not pretend it is simple.

What is a waiver waitlist?

A state program queue that can run for years. Getting on it early matters.

When should we start planning for adulthood?

Earlier than anyone tells you. Usually by fourteen.

From a room in New Castle County to a national count

Step 1
Your circle, in New Castle County, DE
Eight to twenty families who meet monthly. Local operations stay local: your meeting time, your venue, your rules, your members. Nothing about joining changes how your group runs.
Step 2
The New Castle County chapter
Every circle in New Castle County reports one number — how many families it speaks for — and agrees on three asks per school year. The chapter is who a school board, a superintendent or a county commission talks to.
Step 3
The Delaware coalition
County chapters send one delegate each. The coalition tracks state bills, testifies at hearings, and works alongside the structures Delaware families already have a legal right to: the state's federally funded Parent Training and Information Center under IDEA, its Protection and Advocacy agency, and its Developmental Disabilities Council.
Step 4
The national assembly
State coalitions meet quarterly. One count, one set of federal priorities — IDEA funding, evaluation timelines, restraint and seclusion, transition services, and the gap between what the law says and what a district does.

Delaware families are not starting from nothing. Under IDEA, every state has a federally funded Parent Training and Information Center; every state also has a Protection and Advocacy agency and a Developmental Disabilities Council. Those exist to be used. What is missing almost everywhere is a local group organized enough to use them together. New Castle County is one of 3 counties in Delaware, and each one needs its own chapter.

If you already run something in New Castle County

Keep running it. There is no merger, no renaming, no handing over your members or your money. A group that has been meeting in New Castle County for years knows things no statewide organization can generate on its own. Affiliation adds two things and takes nothing: your families are counted in the Delaware total, and your ask is worded the same as everyone else’s so it cannot be answered separately.

Affiliate a New Castle County group · What autonomy means here · Start a county chapter

The rules that make it work

Local groups keep local control

Your meetings, your members, your money, your name. Affiliation adds a count and a shared ask. It never adds a boss.

Nobody is diagnosed here

This is a working group of parents, not a clinical service. Families share what they did and what happened. Nobody prescribes, nobody treats, nobody assesses.

Experience is shared as experience

What one district approved is a fact worth passing on. What worked for one child is a data point, not a prescription. That distinction is enforced in every meeting.