Ages 4-18 · De Baca County, NM county

Autism Parent Mastermind — De Baca County, NM

The hardest part of raising a neurodivergent child in De Baca County, NM is rarely the child. It is being the only person in the room who knows what your child needs, in a meeting where everyone else is paid to be there. De Baca County is one of 33 counties in New Mexico.

Every autistic child is different and every parent is handed the same maze anyway — evaluation waitlists, an IEP meeting where you are outnumbered, a school that says it has no funding. The circle exists so you walk in with what nine other families already learned the hard way.

A monthly meeting in De Baca County

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Ten minutes: one family's current fight, stated plainly
2
What the district actually approved for someone else this year
3
Which local evaluators are taking new referrals
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One ask each family will make this month
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Who is going to the next school board meeting

What families in De Baca County, NM ask first

Do I need a diagnosis to join?

No. Waiting for one is the point at which most families are most alone.

Is this therapy?

No. It is a working group of parents. Nobody here is treating your child.

My child is 16, not 6.

There is an age band for that. Transition-age families need a different set of answers.

From a room in De Baca County to a national count

Step 1
Your circle, in De Baca County, NM
Eight to twenty families who meet monthly. Local operations stay local: your meeting time, your venue, your rules, your members. Nothing about joining changes how your group runs.
Step 2
The De Baca County chapter
Every circle in De Baca County reports one number — how many families it speaks for — and agrees on three asks per school year. The chapter is who a school board, a superintendent or a county commission talks to.
Step 3
The New Mexico coalition
County chapters send one delegate each. The coalition tracks state bills, testifies at hearings, and works alongside the structures New Mexico families already have a legal right to: the state's federally funded Parent Training and Information Center under IDEA, its Protection and Advocacy agency, and its Developmental Disabilities Council.
Step 4
The national assembly
State coalitions meet quarterly. One count, one set of federal priorities — IDEA funding, evaluation timelines, restraint and seclusion, transition services, and the gap between what the law says and what a district does.

New Mexico families are not starting from nothing. Under IDEA, every state has a federally funded Parent Training and Information Center; every state also has a Protection and Advocacy agency and a Developmental Disabilities Council. Those exist to be used. What is missing almost everywhere is a local group organized enough to use them together. De Baca County is one of 33 counties in New Mexico, and each one needs its own chapter.

If you already run something in De Baca County

Keep running it. There is no merger, no renaming, no handing over your members or your money. A group that has been meeting in De Baca County for years knows things no statewide organization can generate on its own. Affiliation adds two things and takes nothing: your families are counted in the New Mexico total, and your ask is worded the same as everyone else’s so it cannot be answered separately.

Affiliate a De Baca County group · What autonomy means here · Start a county chapter

The rules that make it work

Local groups keep local control

Your meetings, your members, your money, your name. Affiliation adds a count and a shared ask. It never adds a boss.

Nobody is diagnosed here

This is a working group of parents, not a clinical service. Families share what they did and what happened. Nobody prescribes, nobody treats, nobody assesses.

Experience is shared as experience

What one district approved is a fact worth passing on. What worked for one child is a data point, not a prescription. That distinction is enforced in every meeting.